Joel is the best husband for a pregnant woman!

I recall when Joel and I were dating and we first began talking about having kids. We discovered through talking about it that we wanted to have a large family. As I have mentioned a few times, our dating relationship wasn’t always stable and when we would break up or be unhappy with each other, I would always be a little sad at the thought of not having a family with Joel. I know he said while I was in Pittsburgh and we weren’t talking for a little while, that he felt like if I were to get married and have kids with someone else that he would feel like he really missed out on that. And I remember sometime in college when I was walking and thinking about Joel and how I didn’t want us to separate because I know he would make such a great partner when I would be pregnant. I could just tell by the way he talked about pregnancy and by the way he had taken care of me when I was sick.

Needless to say, both of us are definitely overjoyed to be married to each other and to be beginning that large, loving family that we fantasized about together. And since I am pregnant, Joel has proved to be just how I thought he would be. He helps try to remind me to take my vitamins, and helps encourage me to eat when I don’t like the taste of anything. But he is also very patient with me when I take forever to decide what to eat. He loves hearing about and noticing every little change. He started talking to my stomach before our baby even had ears! He doesn’t get mad when I sleep all day and he makes sure to take time out to take me to the park when I want to. (I love the park close by because it has a fun swing) And he does a wonderful job of still making me feel beautiful when I wear nothing but sweat pants and don’t shower for days. He just loves me and loves that we are pregnant and I love him too!

New Technique

When Joel & I can't work something out by words, or when talking seems to make things more confusing and worse - we just be quiet and hug!

In the past I would never do this because I always put such an emphasis on working things out verbally. I think that talking things out is important and essential to working certain issues out. However, sometimes you need to let things go, let them be, or realize that talking isn't going to bring you closer, so you just physically get closer.

Sometimes by becoming physically close, we are better able to stay close with our words after that.